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April 14, 2014∞
by Louise Palanker
I host a safe and friendly teen social network called Our Place. Each week, thousands of questions pour into the community. Kids share with one another and I respond to about 20 questions per day in a column called Ask Weezy. What are today’s kids thinking about? Here are this week’s top five questions.
I’m not the type of guy that’s skinny or has a 6 pack. I’m fat. My body fat is 28% which is obese. Can I still get a girl? A lot of people tell me I should loose weight.
It really is two different issues. You should loose weight because you would be healthier and happier and you will just feel better AND feel better about yourself. But you should loose weight for you. If you loose weight for another person, that person holds too much power in your life.
Can you get a girlfriend while being overweight? Yes, you can. Go to the mall and take a walk and take a look. You will see that all sorts of couples have found each other and appear to be happy.
You don’t need a six pack. You don’t need to be skinny. But speak to your parents about bringing healthier foods into the house so that you can cut down on junk and eat more real food. Eat less. Move more and drink plenty of water. You will loose weight.
Talk to girls. Be friendly. Be kind. Be approachable. Join clubs with like minded people. The way you look today is not the way you are going to look as an adult. You get to decide your level of fitness. Exhibit a) (above) Ryan Seacrest - Age 13
Is PMS all in my head?
What man told you this? PMS is not in your head. It is caused by hormonal shifts in your body which effect your mood and how you feel overall. Some women suffer from PMS symptoms more than others. But there are medications that can help you. Ask any adult female or a doctor for advice on treatments.
This b*tch that spread rumors, and talked behind my back AND tried to make everyone hate me likes me now and sees that I’m a funny and sweet person and wants to know me better and be friends with me. Should I forgive and forget or not? Please respond ASAP.
That is up to you. Please don’t use the b word to describe a person. I don’t think you will or should forget. You should be wary and you may want to have a talk with her. Say something like, “I think you’re cool. But you never used to like me. I want to be your friend, but I’m nervous. What has changed?” Let her talk and then see how you feel.
I swear, I’m trying to control my anger but it’s soooooo hard, I just blow up and when I get very mad at a person, I just think about harmful stuff like killing them or hitting them with a bat til they start bleeding.. I wish I could stop thinking stuff like that… I need help.
When a person experiences anger to that extent it means that he or she has bottled up rage which is already at a tipping point.
Your work is to figure out, in your life, what has got you so angry?
You are not really that mad at the current insult. That individual certainly does not deserve the punishment you are envisioning and we don’t want anything horrible to happen to anyone.
Remember that anger is not a primary emotion. There is usually something underlying and fueling the anger. Something like hurt or fear.
So, tell your parents that you would like to see a counselor regarding your anger.
This may be tricky if the people you are the most angry at are your parents, so if you can’t speak to them, tap the little telephone and call a helpline or go visit your guidance counselor.
It’s excellent that you are so willing to work on your anger.
How do I become more confident? I’ve heard answers before like “First just be yourself.” And “It begins with realizing not everyone if perfect.” I’ve heard that and I was wondering if you could give a different piece of advice please. Thank you.
My advice is to focus your attention on making the other person feel more comfortable. Everyone wants to be heard and affirmed. If you listen and ask questions and nod and smile and say things like “Good point,” and “That’s really funny,” you will find that you are able to relax a little bit.
Whatever you need in life, give it away. If you would love for people to say “Good point” to you and nod and smile and let you know that you are accepted, then do this for somebody else.
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